What I've learned from 10 years in family court
A personal note on why I do this work, what divorce coaching actually looks like, and who it's for.
I spent more than a decade navigating the family court system as a mother. Not as a lawyer, not as a court official — as a parent fighting for her children, learning the system from the inside out, often the hard way.
This work — coaching divorced and divorcing moms — comes directly from that experience. I know what it feels like to sit in a courtroom and feel like the language being used has nothing to do with your actual life. I know what it feels like to be told to "communicate clearly" with someone who has spent years making sure clear communication is impossible. I know the bone-tired exhaustion of holding a family together while the legal scaffolding around it shifts week by week.
What coaching actually is
Coaching is not therapy. Therapy goes back — it heals what's already happened, and it's invaluable. Most of my clients work with both a therapist and a coach, and they complement each other beautifully.
Coaching goes forward. We start where you actually are: maybe in the middle of the worst week of your life, maybe a year past the divorce and finally getting your footing back. From there, we build practical strategies — for hard conversations, for court appearances, for co-parenting with someone you can no longer trust, for showing up to your own life again.
Coaching is also not legal advice. I am not an attorney. What I can do is help you understand what questions to ask your lawyer, prepare for meetings, and organize your thoughts and goals so the legal team you've hired can actually work with you instead of around you.
Who I work with
My clients are mostly mothers in the middle of, or recently through, a difficult separation. Many of them are dealing with high-conflict co-parenting situations — the kind that don't fit neatly into court orders, the kind that wear you down in small daily ways.
Some come to me because they're preparing for custody court. Some because they're trying to find a way to co-parent with someone manipulative without losing themselves. Some because the divorce itself is technically over, but the emotional reorganization isn't, and they don't know who they are anymore on the other side of it.
If any of that sounds like where you are, I'd love to talk. The free 20-minute discovery call is exactly that — a conversation, no pressure, no commitment. We figure out together if coaching is right for where you are right now.
— Belinda